You are not Alone.

I remember a couple years back when I moved to a new state and felt so alone. It was strange because I was so excited, yet my nerves made me feel all types of emotions. Loneliness being one of them. I left not only my fiance and family, but everything that felt comfortable to me, to move somewhere I had no idea about.

I met people, became close with a few, but you know sometimes even in a crowd of people you can still feel lonely. Yet, you are not alone.  There are many people who are dealing with these same feelings that you are experiencing. And you know what, so have I.  

I’ve have dealt with a  season of loneliness in my life, more than once to be honest. I felt like I was on my own with no support from anyone, yet I had plenty. It was like I was purposely isolating myself because it made me feel less ashamed to want to talk about it. I didn’t want people to know that I was struggling with this because I didn’t want to face this pain I was feeling nor have people judge me.

I  felt so distant from God. I felt like he didn’t care, nor was he listening to my prayers and cries for  his love. I longed for answers, craved for a connection, for some direction on my life, yet I heard nothing but silence. I felt my heart cry out like David, “In my distress I called upon the Lord, and cried out to my God; He heard my voice from His temple, and my cry came before Him, even to His ears” (Psalm 18:6). I prayed harder, yet nothing.

Being lonely, allowed me to realize a few things. Through this season, where I felt so alone, God was with me all along. He never left me. I grew to truly understand His promise that he would never leave me. “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble” (Psalm 46:1). So many troubling situations in life can leave you feeling alone and insecure, but God is a “very present help” at all times. It was through prayer, I was able to focus more on Him and less on my circumstances. I began to understand the importance of being vulnerable and sharing what I was dealing with rather than trying to figure out what to do on my own.

Have you ever heard the saying if you give the devil an inch, he’ll try to become a ruler? He not only tried to play with my mind when I was alone, but tried to make me seem like God had abandoned me and that wasn’t the case at all.  “I am with you always, even to the end of the age” (Matthew 28:20). As long as I desired His presence, there will never come a time when God will leave me to fend for myself and I receive that.

When you begin to feed into those lies and allow them to take root into your mind, you began to believe them. That’s why it is so important to talk with someone about your emotions and what you are feeling. 9 out 10 someone has dealt with the same thing and or can relate to your situation.

We’ve all felt lost, whether that be through a breakup, death of a loved one, being let go from your job, having people walk out on you, broken friendships, etc. We’ve all been through it and know how it feels to experience some sense of loneliness. “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds” (Psalm 147:3).

Sometimes it’s through your brokenness that leaves you feeling lonely, but the Lord promises to heal the wounds and hold you close to Him. And to be honest, there will be more than once you will go through this season. It’s fully trusting and believing that God will be with you through it all. The tears, the heartaches, pain, hurt, frustration, lack of sleep. He will comfort you, heal, and restore.

My encouragement to anyone who is dealing with this right now, is to let you know, you are not alone. You don’t have to go through this alone. God hears you. He is listening. He has never left, nor does he intend too.  Sometimes through our seasons of feeling like we have been abandoned, God shows up and shows out  in miraculous ways.“Be strong and of good courage … for the Lord your God, He is the One who goes with you. He will not leave you nor forsake you” (Deuteronomy 31:6). God  is on your team, and He will never leave you. That’s a promise.

Here’s a few other resources for those needing someone you can talk to when you feel like you have no one. I hope this helps you and encourages you, because you are not alone.

National suicide prevention lifeline  Call 1-800-273-8255

The Hopeline Call  1-800-394-HOPE (4673)

Safe place Hotline (212) 673-3000

Needing somone to talk to: https://www.7cups.com/