Thursday, January 5, 2017

When I fell in love with myself.

As we have a fresh start to a new year, I just wanted to remind you Queens how important it is to take care of your well being and spiritual growth. I believe this society has given loving yourself a bad name. Some mistake it as being selfish or you know,  full of ourselves. But, man there is nothing like having genuine self love within yourself.

I just want to share with you queens how far God has brought me on this journey. I didn't just wake up one morning & become this confident, god fearing woman. It was quite the opposite. I was far from the Proverbs 31 woman I am striving to be.

Before I truly understood who I was in Christ, I was so lost. I cared so much about my outer appearances, spent too much money on name brand clothes, & cared way too much what other people had to say about me. I lived and breathed to be liked by many, not really caring if they truly care about me or not.

I surrounded myself with people who didn't have goals, nor were they motivated enough to create them. I allowed their negativity to feed into my own spirit. I mistaken their opinions for helpful advice, which caused me to fear.

I was so caught up with trying to please everyone else, that I put my own self on the back burner. I didn't give myself the opportunity to be served, to be loved the way I should have because I was too busy pouring out myself. Not realizing how empty I had become.

I knew that I couldn't keep living like this if I was going to inspire other women & start living for God wholeheartedly. Not that half in half out. It was all or nothing. I had to give up some ways, some old habits that were hindering my growth. I had to cut some ties with people that were weighing me down and draining the life out of me.

Let me be the first to tell you that it is never easy. But it's a must if you want to elevate to higher places. God had to drag me away from people that I knew for years, but I knew deep down inside that season of friendship was done. I began seeing that once I began to let go, I was able to feel more lighter, like a weight was lifted and I could just do flips and cartwheels up and down the hall.

When I started to fall in love with myself, I started doing more things that I loved. I started to see a shift in the way I carried myself, how I handled certain situations, and how others began to treat me.
I've always been told, the way you treat yourself will reflect how other people think they can treat you. That is why it is so crucial that you learn to love yourself.

As I've gotten older, I've learned that other people's opinions of me, will not effect the way I live my life, nor will it stop me from achieving my goals. It goes in one ear and out the other. When it comes to relationships, I have learned I must surround myself with others who dream bigger than me, so I can learn from them. Not everyone is happy for you, and thats okay. As long as your heart is aligned with God's thats all that really matters. It's never up for debate.

Queen, you deserve this year to be your best. Whether that involves getting rid of toxic people, not surrounding yourself around energy drainers, and filling your life with more positivity, whatever it may be, never forget to take time focusing on yourself. You have to create balance and learn the importance of setting boundaries.

Spend more time with Jesus. If that is something I will speak on over and over again, it's making sure your relationship with God is the main focus of your life. Everything else can wait and eventually fall into place. This year though, I challenge my sisters, you beautiful Queens, to keep striving to be women who fear the Lord, and only Him. I pray this year is filled with so much goodness, that God will show up and show out like he always does in your life. Let's make this a year to remember empowering one another to accomplish our goals and setting new ones.

                                          From One Queen to Another