It's been a while since I've wrote something to my beautiful sisters. I hope each & everyone of you who is reading this, is doing well, wearing your crowns bold & proudly. If not, my heart goes out to you. I know sometimes, somedays aren't always easy. There are times when you feel like giving up, times when you feel super stressed about relationships, school, finances, I mean the list can go on..but I just want y'all to know that you are not alone. Don't you even think about giving up. It's not an option. Whatever you are going through will not only stretch you, but show you growth within yourself. It will not only show you how strong you really are, but it will help you discover that you can't control everything, nor is it your job to do so, it's God's.
Lately, I've been getting a lot of messages from my sisters around the world, all having to do with guys. Some of it is exciting to read, because you are excited to share with me about your potential man, but some messages have been extra sad, I mean from break ups, to being cheated on, to stressful times in school, etc.
I just wanted to share what I've learned when it comes to dating. I'm no expert at all so bear with me. When I first starting dating, I was a college student. I know it may be surprising to many, but yes I was focused and didn't have time for men because my education was my ticket for a brighter future. I did know for a fact though, whoever I was going to date, it was going to be with a purpose. Not really a fond believer in wasting other people's time, nor did it seem right to date someone with no intentions of marriage.
Sometimes relationships don't work out, I can attest to that. I got my heart broken, thought I was never going to date again, & allowed my heart to grow hard towards men. I didn't want nothing to do with them. I was bitter, but God revealed so much to me through my singleness. He showed me a few things:
1. No man can ever satisfy me to the full capacity which God does.
2. No man should ever try to take the place where Jesus should be.
3. It's hard to love someone when you don't fully understand the importance of self love.
4. Priorities are a must, but God must be number one.
5. You can't change someone's faith or lack there of. It's not wise to date someone who isn't heading in the same direction as you as in being equally yoked.
6. Don't ever lower your standards for someone that you think has all the qualities, but stays only at his potential.
7. Don't jeopardize your faith, because when all else fails, God never will.
8. Trust in the process of waiting. Stop trying to rush being in a relationship. When the timing is right, God will bless you with someone who will cherish you.
9. Don't get so busy with your significant other, that you begin to neglect your friends.
10. Always be in constant prayer for whoever you are dating, no matter what.
God didn't intend for us to have to handle broken hearts and endless nights of crying, but we live in a broken world. God does want you Queens to be reminded, that even though your heart may be hurting, He is there to comfort you, to heal you, to restore whatever pain you are going through. God wants what's best for you, and if it means taking something away, whether its a relationship, or friendship to give you something even better, trust Him.
He knows what He's doing. He knows what you can handle. He knows what's going on in your heart. He feels your pain, he knows your burden, but I know for a fact, He won't let you go through it alone. He loves you Queens. He wants you to know that your situations you may be going through, isn't in vain. It has a purpose, you have a purpose. So don't give up. God loves you more than you even know, He knew you before you were even born, He understands you when no one does, He sees your potential, He knows the outcome. I love you Queens, so don't ever think you have to go through whatever alone. Wear your crowns boldly & proudly no matter what you may be going through. You are royalty. Nothing less.
-From one Queen to another